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Flying in his shadow: a review of The Aviator’s Wife by Melanie Benjamin

A proliferation of books has been published lately with titles like “The X’s Wife” or “The X’s Daughter.” These titles tend to irritate me a bit, as they define the main female character in terms of a relation to a man in her life. But in The Aviator’s Wife, Anne Morrow Lindbergh, wife of famed aviator Charles Lindbergh and mother of the missing Lindbergh Baby, defines herself continually by the role she plays in other people’s lives, never on her own terms.

The Aviator's Wife

“Were we women always destined to appear as we were not, as long as we were standing next to our husbands? I’d gone from college to the cockpit without a chance to decide who I was on my own, but so far, I was only grateful to Charles for saving me from that decision, for giving me direction when I had none. Even so, I suspected there were parts of me Charles didn’t understand; depths to my character he had no interest in discovering.

The Aviator’s Wife, Melanie Benjamin

A proliferation of books has been published lately with titles like “The X’s Wife” or “The X’s Daughter” (take a look at this great article on The Millions). These titles tend to irritate me a bit, as they define the main female character (very rarely is it a son or father or husband) in terms of a relation to a man in her life. But in a book like The Aviator’s Wife, this strategy is a sound one. Anne Morrow Lindbergh, wife of famed aviator Charles Lindbergh and mother of the missing Lindbergh Baby, defines herself continually by the role she plays in other people’s lives, never on her own terms.

We first meet Anne and her vivacious older sister Elisabeth on the train to Mexico, where their father has been dispatched as the US ambassador. Anne is just about finished her degree at Smith, where all the Morrow girls go—even though she wanted to go to Vassar. Elisabeth is the beautiful one, younger sister Constance is still a child, yet to be slotted into a defined role, and Anne is the shy one, the unwavering one. She blends into the shadows and allows her life to be dictated by her family. . .and then she meets the most famous man in the world. The young Colonel Lindbergh is a media sensation, fresh from his flight across the Atlantic, and is visiting the Morrows for the holidays. Everyone assumes a romance will bloom between him and Elisabeth but in fact Anne catches his eye. He invites her for a solo flight and something awakens in her. It seems like true romance is in the air as he proposes, asking her to be his co-pilot.

Anne and Charles Lindbergh. Photo credit: Hulton Archive/Getty Images
Anne and Charles Lindbergh. Photo credit: Hulton Archive/Getty Images

After the wedding, Charles pushes Anne to learn to fly, to earn her own pilot’s licence, to become a radio operator. He teaches her, rather against her will, how to navigate by the stars alone. He slingshots her off a cliff in a glider; he takes her as his sole crew on long and dangerous mapping missions, even after she gives birth to their first son. Anne experiences inner fear and turmoil, but she always, always complies.

The novel spans the decades of the couple’s troubled marriage. Charles is not always the bright-eyed boy the world fell in love with, and while Anne enjoys being part of “the First Couple of the Air” and sets many records herself, she is always in Charles’ shadow.

She also keenly feels the loss of being able to go out in public without a disguise or an escort. Melanie Benjamin paints a fascinating picture of the prurient press; what is now considered commonplace in a world of TMZ and paparazzi with telephoto lenses, cell-phone hacking and online viral stories, was a new phenomenon then. Watching the Lindberghs struggle to maintain some sense of a private life, and especially seeing how Anne blames the press for their role in the death of her son, is where the novel is strongest. More chilling is how much the Lindberghs enjoy Nazi Germany and the way Hitler is able to keep the press away from them. The sensationalization of the kidnapping and murder of the couple’s firstborn son is page-turning; we know how this part of the story ends but it is gripping to read Anne’s emotions and see Charles’ control-freak responses.

Fascinating, too, is the glimpse at the not-so-nice Colonel Lindbergh: his isolationist tendencies hide blatant anti-Semitism; his cold upbringing makes him in turn cold and unapproachable, even for his wife and children. Even though the book is from his wife’s first person perspective, it’s hard to really “know” Charles Lindbergh here. Their romance is whirlwind, and she finds herself married to a stranger. Charles stays a stranger throughout the book. Anne does absolutely everything he asks, trying to prove herself worthy of being chosen by him, feeling always as though she is on trial as his wife, both in the public’s perspective but also in Charles’. She starches his shirts just so, follows the child-rearing methods he has picked out, jumps into any plane he tells her to. He is emotionally stunted: more than once Anne laments that he is genuinely baffled by human emotion, not understanding her attachment to their children. He is sometimes cruel to the children, to “toughen” them up. He takes Anne farther and farther away from any family and friends she has, isolating her in a way that many abusive partners employ. At first Anne enjoys this shielding because they as a couple cause such a sensation among the press. But it also cuts her off from any support network she might have.

And in her characterization lies my biggest problem in engaging with this novel: a weak main character. Anne is told more than once that she is strong, but she complies with what is demanded of her by her family and her husband throughout the book. When Anne first meets Charles, she’s told that he’s awkward around women, and she’s not expecting much from him anyway. Even after she comes to realize the kind of man he is, she will do anything he asks in exchange for a kind word. It’s difficult to read a life through so passive a character. Even in the 20s and 30s, when the lady of the house took orders far more from her husband, Anne’s family is uneasy with how compliant she is. She even writes a pro-Nazi pamphlet at Charles’ behest, resulting in her ostracism from family, friends, even her old alma mater.

What could be interesting characters and relationships in this novel are barely touched: Anne’s two sisters remain little more than window dressing in her story; she has no friends, which is how Charles likes it. Even when she writes, something she truly loves, it’s almost always at Charles’ prodding because she is “the writer in the family.” The setting, too, is often fun but little more than set dressing. We have the obligatory appearance of Amelia Earhart, for instance, but she adds almost nothing to the story.

Frustrating though Anne is as a protagonist, her story is worth reading. Desperate for approval throughout, she does evolve slowly toward the end of the book. The insight into a difficult marriage to a man who is not what he appears to be is compelling. Were she less of a wet noodle, or were the characterization throughout more vibrant, this book would go from an interesting reading to an excellent one.


Three out of five blue pencils

Book received from Delacorte Press in exchange for a fair, unbiased review.

The Aviator’s Wife by Melanie Benjamin, published in Canada by Delacorte Press, © 2013

Available at the Random House site, Amazon, Indigo, and fine independent bookstores everywhere via Indiebound.

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6 thoughts on “Flying in his shadow: a review of The Aviator’s Wife by Melanie Benjamin”

  1. I finally got around to reading this, and I can’t say whether or not I liked the book because I was too distracted by how closely the Lindberghs’ marriage resembled that of my parents (except that neither of them can fly planes). I’m glad I stuck with it, though. Good review!

  2. I have spent ten years studying Anne Morrow Lindbergh and give classes and presentations on her life and accomplishments. I would not spend 10 minutes trying to better understand and appreciate the woman depicted in “The Aviator’s Wife.”

    Mrs. Lindbergh was a pioneering aviator, and was given the prestigious Hubbard Medal by National Geographic for her work with Charles in their flights charting routes for Pan Am in the 1930s. She spent nearly six months and traveled 30,000 miles in a single-engine aircraft flying in a big circle around the Atlantic; this was after their similar trip to the Orient. She wrote two best-selling books about these trips, and with her own abilities and craft became a noted author. (As of today, after more than 100 years, the Hubbard Medal has only been given out for 22 events and/or people.)

    Mrs. Lindbergh published 13 books in her lifetime. Gift From the Sea, first published in 1955, is still in print. Over many years, she also wrote numerous articles for various magazines. Perhaps the most revealing book is the one that came out last spring, a book of letters and diaries spanning 1946 to 1986, Against Wind and Tide. Reeve Lindbergh and other family members spent four years going through 40 years of writing, some of it the most personal and revealing writing of Mrs. Lindbergh. It’s a treasure for all her admirers, and especially for someone who has spent years learning about her.

    Ms. Benjamin treats the Lindberghs with disrespect when she writes that Charles laughed and clapped when Bruno Hauptmann was executed for the kidnapping of Charles, Jr. Charles was a different duck, for sure, but even that would be out of character. Ms. Benjamin described the Lindberghs and their employees through Anne’s thoughts when they were looking throughout the house for little Charlie the night of the kidnapping. She said, “. . . I had the strangest urge to laugh, for we resembled nothing more than characters in a Marx Brothers movie.” Again, in such a frantic time for such a sensitive and thoughtful person, I don’t think Mrs. Lindbergh would be anywhere near a laugh or even a smile, let alone a thought about the Marx Brothers.

    Ms. Benjamin treats some subjects in a laughable manner. She made it appear that the Lindberghs and Amelia Earhart had great disdain for each other; nothing could be further from the truth. If Ms. Benjamin had read the diaries and books of both Anne and Amelia, she would know that they admired and had great respect for each other. And why be flip and characterize it otherwise when the truth itself is so interesting. (There are literally dozens of inaccuracies in the book.)

    Ms. Benjamin was likewise sketchy and flip in occasionally dropping in the names of Robert Goddard and Alexis Carrel, people who were import to Charles and his story. She also mentions that Charles became the spokesman for America First and describes it as “ . . . that ragtag group of individuals. . . .” That “ragtag” group included Potter Stewart, Sargent Shriver and Gerald Ford; they were headed by former four-star General Robert Wood, then Chairman of the Board of Sears.

    But what about Rilke and Antoine de St. Exupery, people who were not only important to her but had a great influence on Anne? They were not mentioned. She loved poetry and would either memorize or read poetry for hours flying with Charles sitting in that back cockpit. This notion was not conveyed in the book either.

    Mrs. Lindbergh was a woman of substance — highly educated, incredibly literate and wonderfully expressive in her writing. In her author’s notes, Ms. Benjamin said that “the inner life can be explored only in novels, not histories — or even diaries or letters.” Mrs. Lindbergh’s letters and diaries are all about her inner life and they are cohesive and well thought out. They are truly thoughtful in all ways about every aspect of her life. I would urge everyone to read the series of now six books of letters and diaries to even begin to understand this woman. I’d rather pursue the remarkable woman Mrs. Lindbergh was in order to learn and understand more about her compelling life than to spend even a minute with the one-dimensional aviator’s wife and the disparaged life portrayed in this book.

    (Much of the research and work I’ve been doing on Mrs. Lindbergh is discussed on my website, — and on the blog embedded it that (or found separately) — ).

  3. I’m also tired of the X-Wife/Daughter titles. I’m glad this one is actually about the titular character and not the husband or father as they so often are. I’ve heard a lot of good things about this book but I’m not completely sold on it. It’s not the type of book I usually read and weak characters are probably my least favourite thing of all.

    1. Yeah, if you’re not completely sold on it anyway, it’s probably not the book for you. If you wanted insight because you’re fascinated by the Lindberghs or like having the curtain drawn back on how people deal with troubled marriages, it’d be more up your alley. But for strong characterization and story? You’re not going to love this one.

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